Face it, love hurts. If you know love you will know pain. If you love and lose you will hurt. If one you love hurts you will hurt too. Your love for someone may hurt another or even the one you love. But that's the price of love. Often that's the reason we love. If you love you cannot escape pain. But honest love trumphs even the worst pain love can cause.

The bigges key is to never let the pain blind you. We can get so wrapped up in our own pain that we lost sight of other people feelings. We become oblivious to their pain, their cries get drowned out by our own suffering. So blind that we may even lose sight of the love they have as well.

I made that mistake a short while ago. I was hurting. Someone I love hurt me and I was consumed by my heartache. All I could think about was me and my suffering. I just wanted to stop hurting. The pain silenced the world around me. She was hurting too. And I couldn't see it, I couldn't feel it. I couldn't even feel the love she still had for me.

I got lucky though. Really lucky. I was determined to try my best to hide my pain and not let it show. To appear to be strong despite my weakened state. I wanted her to see and know that I was going to be okay, even though in reality I wasn't.

That was both a blessing and a curse. A blessing because it almost instantly made me aware of her pain. With one great blow I was hit by all the pain and suffering she had inside. I also became aware of just how much love was there as well. It was a curse because I was instantly in tears, horrified of what I have done. The one I loved was in pain and I couldn't see it, blinded by my own.

Fortunately it wasn't too late. With true love it is never too late, but often times when what must be said isn't said or what should be known isn't known then it never will be. Thankfully, through the tears, she said what needed to be said and I suddenly knew what needed to be known.

Love hurts. Sometimes it even sucks. The pain can often seem almost impossible to endure. But the true nature of love demands that we learn it's greates value through the pain it causes. Too often we focus on the pain when we should focus on the love. Love has to hurt. If love doesn't then it isn't really love.

So yeah, love hurts. But that's okay, that's the way it's supposed to work.
As long as we don't let the pain blind us to everything else that out there, especially the love, then through that pain not only will we find a better love, but we will learn to love better.

At least I know I have.





As an added note, because I am on the subject of love I have what I like to call the two greates sins of love, maybe the two greates sins of life. Love is the most precious gift one can ever give and receive and it should never be questioned and never taken for granted, and it should never be used where it isn't needed. The saying goes:

"Always tell someone you love them if you do, never tell someone you love them if you don't."

I don't think I am the first person to figure that out nor will I be the last. But if you haven't yet, consider it my two cents worth.

Have a good one